Fair and firm discipline isn't a catch phrase type of
discipline. It is simply you, the parent, creating a discipline plan for your children
that are fair to both of you and sticking to it using a firm and loving
approach. Here are three reasons why you should:
·
Fair and firm discipline teaches
respect for adults and those in authority. Teens who do not have any,
little or the wrong type of discipline in the home often are those who get in
trouble at school and/or with the law.
· Fair and firm discipline allows your teen to feel
safe. When you set clear expectations and limits you are showing your
teen the safe route through the maze of dos and don'ts in their daily lives.
You are giving them a map to follow where they get to make choices for
themselves. This is a very safe feeling and helps with building confidence.
Older teens will eventually learn how to set their own expectations and limits
when you follow this type of discipline.
· Fair and firm discipline allows your teen to take responsibility for their
actions. When your teen understands the rules and the consequences and
knows that they are expected to follow the rules then they are ready and often
willing to take consequences – whether they are positive or negative. This
means you can’t forget to remember to praise your teen’s good behavior as well
as stand by the consequences you have set for poor behavior.